Oh, they kill with kindness!

 

 

 

That bloke Hamlet mistakenly clarified in the eponymous play of the bard that, "…I must be cruel, only to be kind Thus bad begins and worse remains behind.” The chap was basically trying to dissuade Gertrude, his mother, from having it off with Claudius, as that would be a betrayal of her previous husband, Hamlet’s father. He was certainly cruel, threatening her that her neck might break if she does not come to heel, but the intention was kind to keep her from going astray. I extract this gem, by now a bodacious idiom, from within a lot of other drivel that the mad prince utters, to heighten the paradox therein, as it suits my purpose today. My purpose being to denounce the whole caboodle of mankind who assail my senses on a daily basis by battering me with Whatsapp kindness, by manipulating the idiom a bit to say that they ‘be so kind that they are cruel.’

 

Whatsapp, individual, and even more so the groups, are like the quintessential wintertime razai, which you are reluctant to get in but too squeamish to get out, and so you endure it in the hope that something meaningful may emerge among all the annoying kindness disbursed inexorably, day in and day out. Your phone keeps whirring with messages that pop up, washed liberally in the milk of human kindness.

 

If you are one of those kindly inconsiderate individualities who sends greetings,  beneficent feel-good or generously-preachy messages on Whatsapp, please scoot pronto, as what I intend to write may upset your sensibilities a great deal. Others are welcome to empathize and sympathize.

 

I have already expressed my exasperations twice in these blogs, and although there was no advisory for the perpetrators to scram, they have failed miserably to have any correctional or reformatory influence. So be it but here I  go again, reserving my polemics only for the beatific kind today:

 

http://anindecisiveindian.blogspot.com/2020/12/hbd-forsooth.html

http://anindecisiveindian.blogspot.com/2020/10/rip-away-random-reckless-rip-routine.html

 

Kindness galore! Sample some of kindnesses:

 

Insipid festival greetings on festivals one had never heard of, and, since we already have a zillion, could very well do without the addition of such hooey as Akshaya Tritiya, Govardhan Pooja, Maundy Thursday and Mariรค Himmelfahrt. These mostly come with an image, or even a poem, which may be movingly soap-operatic to the senders but, on me, have the effect of noisome and injurious human emissions.

 

Some of these come with a social message, like this one, This Navratri, May Goddess let that no Durga is aborted, no Saraswati is stopped from going to school, no Laxmi has to beg for money from husband, no Parvati is sacrificed for dowry, no Sita has to suffer in silence and no Kali is given a tube of fairness cream. Happy Navaratri, friend, May the universe shower its blessings to you and your family!” Now, why this armchair social reformer has to wrap his idle wish in a cloak of kindness for me is beyond my scope of comprehension.


Even worse are these kind souls who cast their net wide on the web, extract some inanity with moral lessons, starting with solicitousness but ending with cajoling or even threatening me to forward them to others, or else. Hey, phone potatoes, why do you not try your preaching in person to people and let us see how many would roll up? Are you playing a Petrucio on me, who, plans to tame Kate’s shrewish nature and make her obedient in The Taming of the Shrew, and says, “And if she chance to nod I’ll rail and brawl, And with the clamor keep her still awake. This is a way to kill a wife with kindness.” Do you think you can tame me into acknowledging your moronish kindness and reform myself?

 

There are days when there is no festival, even in India. Not to be deterred, some of these kindness freaks have devised a way to be kind without a break. They wake up every day, starting 3.15 AM and dispatch ‘Good Morning’ to everyone on his list or his groups, every day. And some, who excel even these specimens, wish you Happy Day of the week, like Happy Monday through to Happy Sunday. A good reply in the retort ‘Happy 8 AM to you’, or 'Happy whatever be the time you receive it", mitigates nothing. Imagine, some of them actually wish you Good Friday on the Good Friday! May the curse of Devil fall upon these bounteous types, who utter this profanity unknowingly, but deserve a cudgel all the same.

 

I have many who send me an inspirational quote, a maudlin story or a feel-good parable because they say that either they have a special love for you or they proclaim that they care about you. Unlike the lamebrain Benedick in Much Ado About Nothing,  who thinks that Beatrice is a swell girl and if she is moronish enough to love him, then he must return it, “…It seems her affections have their full bent. Love me? Why, it must be requited! I hear how I am censured…”. Not me. I deal these missives with total indifference although my impulse is to tell them that they may love me or care for me but there is only so much of their bullshit I can tolerate.

 

Wine has more merits, even virtues, than demerits. The bard propounds many. In The Merry Wives of Windsor, as Anne is readying to serve wine, after a disagreement with Slender who is unable to keep his new vow for long, her father, Master Page, famously says, “Come, gentlemen, I hope we shall drink down all unkindness”.

 

Berated by this thoughtless benevolence every day, I too need something to palliate my agony so, bring the wine, friends, let me do the opposite and drink down all the kindness. Wine? It can do a lot, so even Brutus, a murderer, a fugitive, calls for wine as a means to forget his troubles in Julius Caesar, saying, “…Give me a bowl of wine.—In this I bury all unkindness…”

 

I am a follower of my chฤchฤ Ghฤlib who taught me:

 

Dฤซvฤr bฤr-e-minnat-e-mazdลซr se hai แธณham

ai แธณhฤnumฤรฑ-แธณharฤb na ehsฤรฑ uThฤ.iye

(bฤr-e-minnat-e-mazdลซr: weight of the kindness of the laborers, แธณhฤnumฤรฑ-แธณharฤb: one whose home is ruined, ehsฤรฑ: obligation. The weight of obligation is so burdensome that even the walls of your house have become bent under this load of kindness (of the workmen who built the house). O, One whose home has been ruined, don't carry the burden of anyone's kind favour, take a lesson from the walls of your wrecked house that even such strong objects get bowed down in keeping a stony burden lifted up.)

 

And therefore, while I disown all this kindness here today, I will continue to monitor these perpetrators of decorative clemency:

 

Banฤkar faqฤซroรฑ kฤ ham bhes Ghฤlib

tamฤshฤ-e-ahl-e-karam dekhte haiรฑ 

(faqฤซroรฑ: dervishes, vagrants one who lead mystic life, bhes: disguise, tamฤshฤ-e-ahl-e-karam: spectacle, exhibition of the people of kindness. I put on the guise of a vagrant mendicant and witnesses the spectacle of the conduct of the people of generosity. I do this not because I need of their generosity but with a view to determining the virtue in the so-called kind people; after all genuinely-generous people go through their kind deeds privately without a fanfare.)

Comments

  1. Mani, why don’t you transcript the verses in Devanagari? I think the software would allow it. Thank you

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  2. Will try...you see, I am aware of the Roman adapted with modifications for Urdu so find it easier to use it.

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  3. Very well expressed. There is no cure for the affliction called Whatsapp. Mir says: เค‰เคฒ्เคŸी เคนो เค—เคˆँ เคธเคฌ เคคเคฆเคฌीเคฐें, เค•ुเค› เคจ เคฆเคตा เคจे เค•ाเคฎ เค•िเคฏा, เคฆेเค–ा เค‡เคธ เคฌीเคฎाเคฐी-เค-เคฆिเคฒ เคจे เค†เค–़िเคฐ เค•ाเคฎ เคคเคฎाเคฎ เค•िเคฏा ।
    Kabeer Ahmad

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    1. ๐Ÿ™ ๐Ÿ˜Š boss, thanks

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  4. Hilarious. Painfully true though. :-)
    Regards. Sathya

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  5. Hilarious, well expressed

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  6. I too dread every festival. But I am well prepared. I copy a message like 'Happy Hanuman Jayanti to my clipboard and the moment a greeting arrives I shoot back by clicking the paste button. Greeting ka jawab greeting se! This Golabari continues till nightfall.

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